Have That Hard Talk About Assisted Living on #NationalHonestyDay
At some point, you may realize your parents are no longer able to be completely independent. They may have developed physical or cognitive health issues that make it unsafe for them to continue living where they are. If that time has come, then an assisted living community can be a good option that gives your parents the combination of support, care, services and independence that they need to thrive.
But talking to your parents about moving out of their home and into assisted living can be really hard. Starting that difficult conversation may be the last thing you want to do, even though you know that it’s necessary.
April 30, 2018, is National Honesty Day, a holiday that few people have heard of. Its purpose is to provide one day when people are encouraged to be radically honest, their discussion free of the little white lies, omissions and evasions that are so common every other day of the year. You can use the spirit of National Honesty Day to create an opportunity to sit down with your parents and have an honest talk about their future plans.
How to Approach the Conversation
If your parents are not open to the idea of moving to assisted living, it can help to frame the discussion as a problem that you have, rather than telling them what to do. Older adults, like everyone else, want to make their own choices. If you tell them they have to move, they are likely to become even more resistant. If instead you say that you are concerned and worried about them, they will probably be more open to what you have to say. However, if they continue to refuse to listen, then it’s best to stop the discussion and try again on another day.
Talking About Money
Another difficult part of the discussion is talking about how your family will pay for your parents’ assisted living and what you can afford. The spirit of National Honesty Day can again be helpful here, no matter which day you actually have the talk.
If Your Parents Agree to Consider Moving to Assisted Living
Once your parents are willing to consider assisted living, arrange visits at assisted living communities that you and your parents can visit together. If your parents start hesitating, ask them to go with you just to humor you and to collect information about what the different communities are like.
If You Ever Have a Problem
Moving to assisted living is a good solution for many aging parents. Unfortunately, abuses sometimes occur. If you ever suspect that your parent has been neglected or abused, call Garcia & Artigliere at 1-800-281-8515 to talk to an experienced assisted living and nursing home abuse attorney.